Forgivness

Do you feel extra angry? I felt so many old negative relationships weighing me down. Forgiveness can be hard, especially as humans, forgetting is not easy or sometimes even possible. With most of our emotions being negative it is no wonder that these negative feelings are the easiest to remember and hold on to.

I have had enough of feeling angry because of other people. It causes me stress and directly affects my mind and can take a toll on my health. I have turned my learning brain on for some forgiveness lessons. I stared here from google.

• Forgiveness doesn't mean you are pardoning or excusing the other person's actions.
• Forgiveness doesn't mean you need to tell the person that he or she is forgiven.
• Forgiveness doesn't mean you shouldn't have any more feelings about the situation.
• Forgiveness doesn't mean there is nothing further to work out in the relationship or that everything is okay now.
• Forgiveness doesn't mean you should forget the incident ever happened.
• Forgiveness doesn't mean you have to continue to include the person in your life.
• ... and forgiveness isn't something you do for the other person.

From Psychology Today. https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/mindful-anger/201409/how-do-you-forgive-even-when-it-feels-impossible-part-1

"Do not attempt to forgive someone before you have identified, fully felt, expressed, and released your anger and pain."

THIS THO

I heart this cuz yes we are creatures of feeling and when we are hurt we deserve to fulfill that in some wAY. 

Then the article goes on to talk about 4 steps to help. I like this as breaking things down and dealing with them in smaller chunks (white stripes) break up

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1. Think about the incident. Accept that it happened. Accept how you felt about it and how it made you react. (Acknowledge the reality of what occurred and how you were affected)
2. Acknowledge the growth you experienced as a result of what happened. What did it make you learn about yourself, or about your needs and boundaries? Not only did you survive the incident, perhaps you grew from it.
3. Now think about the other person. He or she is flawed because allhuman beings are flawed. He or she acted from limited beliefs and a skewed frame of reference because sometimes we all act from our limited beliefs and skewed frames of reference. When you were hurt, the other person was trying to have a need met. What do you think this need was and why did the person go about it in such a hurtful way?
4. Finally, decide whether or not you want to tell the other person that you have forgiven him or her.

I am excited to be a growing human. Forgiveness is such an important part of our daily life, emotions, and mental health. 

Feb 14 a day of all love

I feel like February 14 should focus more on LOVE! 
Romantic love is just one type of love. 
Storge love of natural obligation
Philautia self-love, 
Pragma long-lasting love, 
Agape love for all, 
Ludus playful love, 
Philia friendship love, 
and Eros which is erotic love. It's not all about Eros! That is only one part of life! For many of romantic relationships are HARD. It takes two healthy people! One is hard enough. All relationships take
 Respect, Trust, and Love  <3

Meditation types

All Meditation

Meditation offers time for relaxation and heightened awareness. Research suggests that meditation has the potential for more than just temporary stress relief. Know that there is no "right way" to meditate. I believe it is healthily to try and be mindful. Meditation is a great way to do this. Making a habit or even time in your life to meditate is a good way to stay mentally healthy.

Start with a calm breath. Some people want to repeat, chant, memorize, breathe, focus or what ever it may be our minds our powerful, and you will know what feels right for you. Explore some of the meditation types below.

Types of Meditation

1. Loving-kindness meditation - Prayer type

Taking out the god factor this is like prayer. Loving-kindness meditation is also known as Metta meditation. Its goal is to cultivate an attitude of love and kindness toward everything, even a person's enemies and sources of stress.

While breathing deeply, open the mind to receive and give loving kindness. They then send messages of loving kindness to the world, to specific people, or to their loved ones.

2. Progressive relaxation - Body type

Progressive relaxation, sometimes called body scan meditation, is meditation the focus on for areas of tension. The goal is to notice tension and to allow it to release.

A good way to start is at one end of the body, and work through the whole. Some progressive relaxation is a series of tense and then relaxation of the muscles. Others encourage a person to visualize a wave, drifting over their body to release tension.

3. Mindfulness meditation - Present type

Mindfulness is a form of meditation that urges practitioners to remain aware and present in the moment.

Rather than dwelling on the past or dreading the future, mindfulness encourages awareness of a person's existing surroundings. So, rather than reflecting on the annoyance of a long wait, a practitioner will simply note the wait without judgment.

Mindfulness meditation is something people can do almost anywhere. While waiting in line at the grocery store, for example, a person might calmly notice their surroundings, including the sights, sounds, and smells they experience.

A form of mindfulness is involved in most kinds of meditation. Breath awareness encourages practitioners to be aware of their breathing, while progressive relaxation draws attention to areas of tension in the body.

Research has found that mindfulness can:

reduce fixation on negative emotions

improve focus

improve memory

lessen impulsive, emotional reactions

improve relationship satisfaction

Some evidence suggests mindfulness may improve health. For example, a study of African-American men with chronic kidney disease found that mindfulness meditation could lower blood pressure.

4. Breath awareness meditation - Breathe type

Breath awareness is a type of mindful meditation that encourages mindful breathing.

5. Kundalini yoga - Movement type

Kundalini yoga is a physically active form of meditation that blends movements with deep breathing and mantras. People usually learn from a teacher or do a class. However, someone can learn the poses and mantras at home.

Similarly to other forms of yoga, kundalini yoga can improve physical strength and reduce pain. It may also improve mental health by reducing anxiety and depression.

6. Transcendental Meditation - Concentrated type

Transcendental Meditation is a spiritual form of meditation where practitioners remain seated and breathe slowly. The goal is to transcend or rise above the person's current state of being.

People who practice Transcendental Meditation report both spiritual experiences and heightened mindfulness.

How long does it take to work?

The various meditative disciplines encourage a focus on heightened awareness, slower breathing, and increased acceptance.

Meditation is not a results-focused undertaking. Indeed, fixating too much on the results can provoke anxiety that undermines the benefits of meditation.

However, most research shows that meditation can work very quickly. Studies of meditation typically follow practitioners for weeks or months, not years. Many meditation practitioners report an immediate improvement following a meditation session.

During meditation, it is common to feel less stressed, more accepting, and at greater peace. Over time and with practice, these sensations may continue outside of meditation sessions.

Baby Steps

Working on your self can feel so over whelming
baby steps are just a key to starting
we are people we can only change so quickly

Mind
Start here
take care of your mind
meditation is not scary

Body
take care of this it is the only place we have to live
Start by making healthy habits
from eating to excuse our bodies are things living organisms
your heart beats for every moment you are alive
Do you not want your heart to beat strong and hard for you?
Than treat it that way

To avoid pain take care of your body and your mind! Happy and healthy people makes and happy and healthy world.